Turning a Blind Eye to Suicide

And although the answer to the WHY may be what we could term ‘different’ by way of surrounding circumstances for each person, as to what in the end pushes someone over the edge to make the choice to take their own life, such as a marriage or relationship breakdown, financial stress and hardship, feeling alone, feeling crazy, being lost and out of control with drug or alcohol abuse, losing everything through gambling addiction; there can be many ‘reasons’, however, and ultimately though, underneath it all, the true answer to the WHY is the same for every single person who takes their own life through suicide.

And that answer is disconnection to one’s self.

If disconnection is the original sore, then any of the above mentioned life crisis scenarios can easily, suitably, and dare we say it, conveniently, become the focus for someone to choose suicide, and even more sadly these can also become the focus of the suicide problem, or the focus of the problem with suicide. But is this really addressing the real issue, and in which case are these approaches really making any difference? Evidenced by the alarming and rising numbers of suicides worldwide, the answer has to be and is a Big NO.

And not only is it the numbers of people taking their life, it is also estimated that ‘to every one adult who dies by suicide there may have been more than 20 others who attempted suicide’; and this doesn’t even mention those who ‘thought’ about suicide. Nor does it go anywhere near highlighting the fact of how it affects the vast numbers of people who are impacted in their lives by the act of someone else’s suicide or attempted suicide.

We can look at all the ‘band-aids’ in the world to understand the mental health crisis, but as we all know band-aids only work to protect the sore while a scab heals over it, but the scar very often remains. It is the cause of the cut in the first place that needs to be microscopically looked at, rather than trying to come up with more and more ways to simply manage the sore.

Disconnection is a greater issue and more existential than feeling alone or isolated in your life; though it can start out as simply as waking up feeling ‘flat’, or living your days without any real focus or purpose, feeling bereft after a break up, being out of control with addiction or totally at a loss through financial burden; it is however deeper than these issues alone, and it is even more separating than the sadness or grief of losing a loved one or a dearly loved pet, or your home.

So, what is disconnection . . . and, disconnection from what?

Disconnection at its most precise is the feeling of being disconnected from our very essence, the essence of who we are, our Soul. It is the true qualities and expressions that make each of us a vital and equal part in this experience called life; our essence, when connected to, informs us of our place here, our responsibility here, and more importantly, our unique part to play here on this earth and in this world, it connects us to the universal vastness of who we truly are that is more than and far beyond simply being human; it is a deep level of connection that embodies with it a knowingness that we are all part of the One Soul.

But we are not really spoken to of what we are here for, nor of our true potential when we enter life. Sure, there are many ways of life that exist that posit to be the way or the answer, and certainly many may hold some valuable keys to living a ‘good’ life, but when we have a situation such that we have right now with suicide numbers alarmingly out of control and constantly on the rise, then we MUST ask what is going on? We MUST ask . . . What are we missing here?

How many in life actually ever truly question what we are here for, or even wonder about what our true purpose is? Or is this question or contemplation avoided for fear of the responsibility that comes with the answer? Interesting question. And the answer is most definitely Yes.

Perhaps ironically but certainly not coincidentally, the responsibility that comes with the answer to these questions IS responsibility. To spell it out more clearly, the answer to the question of what are we truly here for, or what is our true purpose here, is Responsibility.

But responsibility to what may then be the next question in this line of pondering. Responsibility to the all, responsibility to everything that matters, everything that is truly important, responsibility to ourselves, to one another, to loving one another, responsibility to being present in all our relationships, responsibility to being focussed and aware of all of life around us, to not crushing another, to not abusing ourselves or each other, to being true to who we really are and living this in full, to being true to our unique expression, to bringing the magnificence of who we each are to one another, responsibility to being tender and harmless, responsibility to reflecting on our own patterns and behaviour when we hear of another’s cruelty, responsibility to appreciating that we are here to support one another by reflection that there is a more responsible way to live, and ultimately, responsibility to the fact that we are here to evolve, to love fully, and not just to simply exist or survive.

It seems then almost inconceivable that we could stand by and not absolutely hate the fact of the devastating numbers of death by suicide – right? Well, not really. Because in fact it is the same consciousness or denial of the truth we are surrounded by that has us not really caring about this issue (and many others) that also feeds us to not be aware of the very fact of our essence and greater purpose here – an energy that has us saying, “don’t show me that, I don’t want to know”. This energy or consciousness has us so manipulated and owned by its ‘empty of purpose’, ‘empty of meaning’ life theories, that we are thus, and then able to turn a blind eye and or deny the impact of the very real and escalating situation we currently have with death by suicide.

However, and immeasurably significant and relevant to this topic, what is also a fact is that we are equally and completely held and surrounded 24/7 by the self-empowering energy of responsibility; if we so choose to align to it. It really is a matter of alignment, either we can buy the lie of irresponsibility, or we can live the truth, it really is up to every single one of us which energy we choose to live our life in and with accordance to, in every moment.

The lie sells us struggle and pain, blame and shame, or on the other side of the coin even resilience and winning, success at the expense of others – either which way it sells us individuality, in place of brotherhood and oneness. The truth on the other hand, offers us harmlessness, equality and evolution, with zero identification as an individual, but rather a sense of embodiment that one walks with, in the knowing of what they are contributing by their alignment to the evolution of everyone. It offers us how to truly love.

When we deny wanting to fully realise and feel the numbers of people dying by suicide this only serves to further confirm (by reflection) the disconnection and desperate state of despair that so many are living with; it is a choice to be and remain blinkered, at all costs wanting to avoid feeling the reality of what is going on in this world. When we deny feeling the reality of the situation of overwhelming numbers of death by suicide, we are by virtue of this actually denying the truth of our responsibility here, thereby and inevitably, also denying the truth of our purpose here, which is to evolve.

There is absolutely no evolution in the act of suicide, just as there is absolutely no evolution in denying seeing the greater lessons to be learnt and the healing offered by observing more closely what is going on with everything in life, in every moment.